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What to Do When You Don’t Know

The topic of “not knowing what your next step is” came up in a mastermind group meeting, and I wanted to share my response to it:

Our mastermind group member had a very successful business that she’d been running for 15 years, but felt it was time to step into her greatness and take the next step…

…whatever that was.

For months she struggled with figuring out what she truly wanted, what was valuable, and what would excite her. She knew there was more inside her and she definitely wasn’t ready to sit and watch TV all day.

Continuing to do what she’d always been doing wasn’t good enough — but she didn’t know what was next. She explored and threw away ideas. No idea tempted her. No idea screamed, “Yes!”

While in the mastermind group meeting, we began to realize that part of the struggle was that she hated being in that place of “not knowingness.” It made her uncomfortable to not have a plan.

So when your mastermind group member is unsure of the right next step, instead of brainstorming about next steps and goal-setting, ask them:

How can you dance with the “not knowingness” and be okay with uncertainty?

Or perhaps Gary Zukav has the best advice: when you don’t know what to do next, try something — anything. Take an action in any direction, a tentative step, and see how you feel about it and if the doors open up for you.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself (or your client)

  1. What are my #1 and #2 motivators?
  2. What do I value? What’s so important I consider it a “must have” in order to have a fulfilling life?
  3. How do I want to make an impact in the world?
  4. What am I willing to risk or invest to get what I want?
  5. What specific cash flow do I need to maintain my lifestyle or create the lifestyle I want?
  6. Is money a measuring stick or a means to an end?
  7. Do I work better alone or with other people?
  8. What needs to be in place to allow my life to flourish?
  9. Do I have any regrets?
  10. If I could change one thing about my life, what would that be? (Not what you’re “supposed” to change, but what you actually want to change.)

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