Facilitating Introverts and Extroverts in a Mastermind Group
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Facilitating Introverts and Extroverts in a Group

We all know there are two personality styles that are polar opposites of each others, right?

I wish it were that simple.

Introversion and extroversion are on a line, a continuum. Sometimes people will be strongly to one side or the other on that continuum, but often people exhibit mixed tendencies, especially in a group setting where there is rapport and trust. For example, an introvert might be shy around new people, but very gregarious around his mastermind group where he’s been brainstorming for six months.

Let’s define what we mean by these terms:

An introvert gets energy by being alone, and expends energy when in a group setting, like a mastermind group. Being an introvert doesn’t mean a person is shy; it means he needs quiet time alone to process the outcome of the mastermind group meetings and recharge his batteries before he wants to get back into the group mode again.

An extrovert gains energy when she is out in the world, especially brainstorming with a group of people. She’s excited to share ideas and to process her thoughts verbally in the group. Sometimes she gets her best ideas and come up with her own solutions while talking through a problem with other people.

How do you facilitate a mastermind group that includes both types?

An introvert needs quiet time, even a minute or two, to collect his thoughts and reactions to a given problem or situation. Giving the entire group a few minutes to write down their ideas on their own, before sharing, can give the introvert the space he needs to process.

On the other hand, the extrovert needs time to talk out loud, to process her thoughts while she’s actively communicating with others. Knowing this, you can allow the extrovert a few minutes more during her Hot Seat to explain her situation: she just might find clarity or even solve her problem herself, simply by talking openly about it.

Between meetings, give each of these types a way to communicate with the entire group, possibly through an online message forum. The extrovert will appreciate the ongoing connection to the group and the introvert can take his time to process internally, then communicate at his leisure.

 How can you tell if a mastermind group member is an introvert or an extrovert?

It’s not possible to pigeon-hole someone and label them as “all introvert” or “all extrovert,” but there are tendencies to one side or the other that you can (and should) pay attention to:

  • an introvert makes more and sustained eye contact
  • an extrovert will appear energized by being in the group situation
  • an introvert will appear to think before they speak
  • an extrovert jumps right into the conversation and thinks while they speak
  • an introvert may disappear during coffee breaks, or talk deeply with one person
  • an extrovert will enjoy talking to 3 or 4 people in a group during coffee breaks
  • an introvert may seem shy around the group in the beginning, until he gets to know everyone better
  • an extrovert will interact with everyone in the group, even in the beginning, because she loves to meet new people

As a mastermind group facilitator, being aware of these two personality types and giving each what they need will foster a tight, powerful group.


2 thoughts on “Facilitating Introverts and Extroverts in a Group”

  1. Nelle Harang says:

    You really make it seem so easy with your presentation but I find this matter to be really something that I think I would never understand. It seems too complex and extremely broad for me. I’m looking forward for your next post, I will try to get the hang of it!

  2. Corinne McVitie says:

    This is so helpful. Often I have these 2 types of people in my mastermind groups and the extroverts can really take over if we’re not careful. I know they don’t mean to take over and I don’t want to imply that they’re doing it on purpose, but this post helps me to give a framework to share with the extroverts so that THEY can recognize the introverts.

    Thank you. Great post.

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